Living in the question is a fertile place to be instead of providing yourself easy answers based on past conditioning. Give yourself permission to not know. Open and allow the space for Spirit to teach you the truth of who you really are. Enter into the mystery of God!
The ego, sometimes referred to as "edging God out," is the portion of our conscious mind that is logical, rational, and makes distinctions, discriminates, and judges in the world. The ego is also the finite, separate, and limited human mind. The ego is the ruler of this world. The ego tries to control and dominate the world to feel safe. It analyzes and judges saying "I am this and this but not that." The ego lives in duality, judging things as good or bad. The ego isn't inherently bad, as some think. It is only negative if it is cut off or separated from God, or separated from Love which is the powerful heart of God.
A spiritualized ego, or a mind that tries to connect to God without the inner transformation of the heart, can become radical, fundamental, and see only differences and duality. Neurotic narcissism creates god in its own image and is only in relationship to its own self and its own interests (its all about me; there is no we). A spiritualized ego will say my beliefs or religion is the only true one, and believes everyone else is wrong, bad, defective, or of the devil. When this is taken to an extreme, a spiritualized ego will go to war or kill those whose beliefs vary from theirs in any way.
The ego that is transformed by the Spirit of God in the heart is transmuted or transfigured into the faithful servant of God and spiritually develops into knowing and being the higher, deeper true self that can say the Father and I are one. "In that day you will know that I am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you" (John 14:20).
The true self is the unlimited, unconscious and superconscious mind (and the transformed conscious mind united in the heart) that is connected and one with God. "Have this mind among yourselves, which was in Christ Jesus" (Philipians 2:5).
The true self is the mind of the heart. It is not separate from God. The true self is one with God. It is nondual and is interested in the highest good for all, and rightly judges from a place of compassion, wisdom, and love. Jesus was the complete, whole human being who was the perfect example of the true self. This is why he said "I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but by me" (John 14:6). No one comes to God, the true Self, or the higher self, unless you go through the heart and the body of the Son of God (we are all a part of the body of Christ Spirit no matter what external religion you may belong to). God is not found through the intellect! You must go through the body! Christ Spirit has never been born and never will die. It was the Spirit that was in Jesus and is in all of us, even though it is hidden and undiscovered in so many. It is the hidden splendor, the hidden treasure that can be found within.
So I ask "Who are you?"